Facebook 25 Question thing...

1. I will use this number one slot to answer the one thing I have to answer every time I introduce myself. My name is Dax. Yes it is my real name and not a nickname. It is not short for anything like Daxter or any perversion like that. I have had that name for my 28, almost 29, years on this earth. My mother discovered the name reading Harold Robbins book The Adventurers. The main character's name was Diogenes Alejandro Xenos and he went by Dax. According to my mom, "he was a hellraiser, and if the southern saying that you pay for your raising is right, then she was in for trouble." I have met 5 other people named Dax in my life, and we have all gotten our name from this book. http://www.fantasticfiction.co.uk/r/harold-robbins/adventurers.htm

2. Friends are a big part of my life. Most of my friends hold a higher position in my life than my family. I will do anything for my closest friends. One friend has said "I know Dax will drop anything to do something for me if I need it." But that being said, I have come not to expect the same thing from others. Which gets me in trouble most of the time. I try to live my life by the golden rule.

3. I was born in a small town in Arkansas. There is a love/hate relationship I have with Hazen. I don't have the same views as everyone in the town. I feel as if Hazen is my own personal black hole. Things have happened in my life and I have ended up back here. I do still love going to watch the kids play sports and still hate Carlisle. When I lived in Idaho I would check fearlessfriday.com to make sure Hazen had won their football game that night.

4. My mom and I have an extremely close relationship, but I still keep things from her. Since I was young, we went a lot of places together. That started after my parents got a divorce. She would take some friends and myself to a neighboring town just so we could go watch sporting events/movies/etc. But there are some things in my life that I tend to keep from her. We have different values and different way we see things in today's world. I would call her every day when living in Idaho. She is the one person I miss when I'm gone.

5. With my mother and I having a close relationship, my father and I are not close at all. I will sometimes refer to him as my sperm donor. He has never done anything fatherly for me. I still get upset when I see my friends with their fathers knowing that I have never and will never have that. It's one reason I would be scared to have kids. I want to be a father badly, but I don't want to let a kid down as much as I was let down during my childhood. I think I would be a good father, but because of what I know my dad has done, I'm scared to do a lot of things. It holds me back a lot in my life from doing things normal people do.

6. I abso-freakin-lutely HATE valentines day. The reason is not because I'm usually single and don't have a date, it is because my birthday is two days later. I get the dual present, i get the dual dinner, and i get to hear about what others did on their valentines day. You can have the 14th and the 15th to have your valentine day discussion, but the 16th is about me. Last year was the greatest birthday because I got to spend it with 3 of my closest friends. Thanks Shaun!

7. If I could live one year of my life again, it would be my first year at Idaho. I moved to Pocatello, Idaho without knowing anyone. It was the first time in my life I had ever lived completely alone. Being in Arkansas for college I still could drive home on the weekend to see my family. I moved 26 hours away to where there was no one I knew. To my astonishment, I survived that first year. I made friends that turned into family. Every day I think about that year, how great my friends and my squad were. It went a long way to helping me see that I can survive when away from my safety nets.

8. In high school I was a poser. I tried to impress people as much as I could. I tried way to hard to make friends and ended up looking like a fool. 10 years later at our high school reunion I had a classmate tell me the sweetest thing that I have ever been told. She told me that she saw a change in me and that she was proud I could finally stand tall. I started thinking about it after she said it and realized that I have come a long way in increasing my self-esteem, but I still have a long way to go. I get stressed and depressed over the silliest things.

9. I love watching stupid movies. I prefer to watch comedies or anything else that will make me laugh. I hate paying to have something make me think or make me sad. If I'm going to pay to watch something, I want 2 hours of no thinking. Just laughing.

10. With #9 being said, I can't turn off my brain. It sucks at night. I have to have something on in the background. If not I will lay there and think about random things. Usually death or conversations I had during the day and what I could have said better...

11. I am a sports nut. But only high school or college. I hate professional sports. Most weekends you can find me at some sporting event. I love football, even during the winter months. One of my favorite football experience was when I took my Idaho State Cheerleaders to the Weber State football game in Ogden, UT where one second it was snowing, the next it was sunny, then windy, then snowy, and all in all it was a blast!

12. I miss coaching. I miss coaching college. It was a blast, except for the dance team coach. I wish my kids in Idaho could have had the experience I had. I wish we could have gotten in a van and drove to every away game. Or rode on a bus 12 hours to cheer a game and then turn around to drive right back home (Stephanie do you remember that trip to west georgia?). The one thing I am proudest of is that my kids still talk to me. Some of my favorite memories are
- Camp my first year when we didn't have signs and had to use bloomers for our gameday cheer and ended up winning competition
- Waiting on video results and starting at the bottom because we all thought we would have finished in the lower half, and working our way up to see our name at #4, .002 out of a partial paid bid to nca nationals.
- Meeting them backstage at nationals in Vegas and seeing their faces as they walked off the floor.
I don't miss all the kids on that squad, but there are a few I still love with all my heart.

13. I can't use public restrooms. I can do #1 in them, but #2 is a no no. I can't be in a public restroom while someone is doing #2. I'm #2 phobic. I can only do #2 in my own house or somewhere where I have slept. If I have to use the restroom and someone else beside family is visiting, they have to evacuate to another room or have a tv or stereo up.

14. Music is my life. I love any type of music. My ipod is full of anything you could even ask for.

15. I still talk to my first all star squad ever. My seniors still talk to me and still say hi when they see me. Most of them are on facebook, and are on my friends list. My mini's parents still ask me where and if I'm coaching. It makes me feel good that parents like the way I coach their kids. Even some of the kids I coached in junior and senior highs along time ago still talk to me. A girl from the first squad I ever coached is a friend on facebook and still gives me as big of a hug as she did when she won her first competition in 7th grade... Destiny i'm so glad you got to cheer at ULM

16. I can't go anywhere without my cell phone. Its constantly within grabbing distance.

17. I can't walk backwards without falling over stuff. I can be coaching describing a stunt, and I trip over the cd player, a shoe, or a person. I am NOT the most graceful person. The other night I got up from the dinner table and backed into the oven door that was down, and burned my ass.

18. If I talk about doing anything with time, I look at my wrist. This is normal, except I never wear a watch.

19. When I went to Henderson after graduating from ASMS, I felt like a slacker, but found a home. I still love all of my experiences at Henderson. I probably wouldn't have gotten involved in cheer as much as I am had it not been for Henderson. Cheering at Henderson was a blast. Although we weren't competitive, it was a blast. The biggest part of Henderson that I miss was standing behind Steph before the game in the end zone, waiting on the band to march up to hill to play Bflat to G, pointing (and watching people that didn't know looking up to see what we were pointing at), and then doing and extension on the drums. I still get a tear in my eye when I hear Bflat to G

20. I hate shaving. Which is why I usually look shaggy. I like to keep a beard because I look younger when I don't have one. Also, when I was younger I had what we thought was a birthmark, later to be found to be a tumor growing out of my skin over my ear. When we had it removed there is a big scar now. So I like to keep it covered. When I was younger, before we got it removed, my mom kept my hair longer over it so it wouldn't be as noticeable. I had sideburns as an 8 year old.

21. I met one of my best friends when he was in the 7th grade. As he has gotten older he is totally like a brother now. His family have totally accepted me as a son, which is amazing. They have always made me feel like I'm normal, where my real family hasn't. The Brumley's are an amazing family and I'm so glad to have them in my life.

22. I am still friends with my first childhood best friend. We lived in neighboring cul-de-sac's when I was younger. I haven't visited him in a while, but I used to go see him and his wife a lot.

23. I love cartoons. I watch them whether or not my niece and nephew are visiting. As I am doing this survey I'm watching Spongebob. I'm waiting on the Razorback game to start.

24. I now love to fly. I was scared to fly for a while because I just never got the chance. As my kids from Idaho can tell you, that first plane ride to LA for camp was traumatizing for me. But after flying home for Christmas, to camp again, and then to and from Salt Lake last year for my birthday, I LOVE it.

25. Most of you know this but oh well... I can recall most cheerleading routines I have ever choreographed, seen, or done. I will bust them out randomly. This happens in a car with Jake most the time. If drunk enough I will do it at a party/club. About a month ago I was drunk with some friends and did the Idaho State fight song.... Singing and Motions. It was impressive...